The new year is such an amazing time isn’t — a time for reinvention, the time you feel like anything is possible. Even though you may feel like everyday is a struggle. The new year brings with it hope. I think everyone needs a little bit of that in life. This year my goals, my hopes, my dreams are completely different than lasts. They have to be — because things have changed so much.
For one maturity is changing me. Heartbreak has changed me. Reality has changed me.
This exact time last year – I had just spent the perfect night with the man who I thought was going to spend the rest of my life with. I remember so vividly sitting on his friends couch – as he wrapped his arms around me and slid his fingers over my ringer finger- indicating that I was going to be his forever. And that excitement lit a fire in me that I thought would last forever. It didn’t of course – young love has a way of tricking you.
But in that instant, that start of that new year – I had so much hope. And I knew things would change as every year they do in some way but, I didn’t know how.
I didn’t know – the home we shared together, the job I spent my whole life looking for, the dreams I had falling into place could so suddenly be flipped upside down. One day – things just changed, he changed, I changed, and I’m not really sure when or why… but I guess no one does – maybe I just opened my eyes.
Maybe I decided to stop letting people take advantage of me, or maybe I just gave up trying.
But anyways – I wish I had a crystal ball a way to know if what I want in the new year will actually come true. Will something really good happen, something bad?
Will I lose all the weight I want to – will I meet that special someone who I will actually spend my life with, will I get the promotion I want or will I have to move and pick up my life once again. Will I be nicer, stress less — so many questions, so many changes, so many possibilities.
As every year goes by I’m learning – we need that hope – to understand no matter how good or bad the past year was, next year can be better, will be better. We as humans need a marked start date for success- okay here is the start of the rest of my life. I hope in the new year I can learn to cherish everyday, because if 2014 has taught me anything is that – life will kick your ass – life doesn’t owe you anything – and it can all and by all I mean everything be taken away in the blink of an eye.
That’s not a morbid way to think of things, its honest – and a beautiful way I think. I would not have all the amazing things I have in my life right at this very moment if not for a series of events that led me here. At the time I either loved or hated those events but both made me a better person – and therefore I wish I had cherished my time with them more.
I had no idea ‘he’ was going to break my heart. I’m sure he had no idea I was going to break his — but maybe if we each spent a little more time focusing on the beauty of right now — right then — might have been a little better.